Monday, May 21, 2012
Gratitude not attitude
How hard is it to say thank you? Two words. Two syllables. Not that much effort you'd think. But, for some people, those two little words are harder to say than any others. I was just chatting with a friend who, like me, has given a lot of her time to Girl Scouts. Now, some of you may think that's not a very big deal. But, we're not talking just being a troop leader and having six girls every other week make pot holders, sing songs and braid each other's hair. This is a different type of volunteer. This is the type of lady who has a dozen girls in her troop, who schedules field trips and sleepovers and hikes and rock climbing and all of this other stuff. Then, she goes beyond her group and volunteers for all the troops in her area, acting as a consultant, organizing activities and events like dances or camping trips for 100 girls. This is no easy job. Oh, wait, it's not a job, because there's no pay. But you do it because you like it or because you've been called to serve or because you're just a glutton for punishment. And you do it for free. But, wait, there is an added perk. Sure, you don't get paid, but you get criticized! Hooray. How wonderful! It's so great that I give up my free time and you treat me like a glorified babysitter. And then you tell me all the things I could be doing better so that your daughter can have more fun. Oh, I'm so happy you joined! I'm so happy that I have someone to point out my shortcomings and remind me that I'm really not all that and a bag of chips. It's so awesome that I get to process cookie orders during my work breaks and prepare for meetings during my lunch hour and answer your inane questions when you text me during dinner time and homework time and shower time and bedtime. And just when I thought it couldn't get any better, you come along with your comments. It's so nice of you to take time away from shopping/reading/texting/upgrading your status to let me know that I don't deserve your gratitude. Boy this just gets better and better. I know most of you ladies reading this right now are nodding your head because you know the type of person I'm talking about. Do me a favor - print this out and secretly hand it to her. Just a nice, friendly reminder to say THANK YOU to those who volunteer to help your child. You won't melt.